A Different Approach

How do you forgive someone when they betray you? When they hurt you? Or do any number of hurtful things to you? These questions aren't easy to answer. We know the biblical answer is to forgive, but how do we accomplish it? I'm still searching for the definitive answer, but I think we can come at it from a different approach.

We need to approach the process of forgiveness by being rooted in our identity. In Colossians 3:12-14, Paul sets a standard for church which is helpful for us as followers of Christ. The standard says, recognize who you are and live accordingly.

Colossians 3:12 describes us as a "chosen people," "holy," and "dearly loved." The expression, "chosen" tends to make many Christians bristle. They don't like the thought of election (predestination), because they think it violates human freedom and smacks of unfairness. However, the Bible teaches that God chose a people for himself, and that we, as Christ's followers, are chosen by God.

Election shouldn't freak us out. It should encourage us. It means that God knew us before he formed us, that he loved us before he made us, that he has a purpose for our existence, and that he has numbered our days. It means God picked us, but not because we were special or perfect or impressive. He picked us because he loved us, he pursued us because he picked us, and he set us apart for his special purposes.

He has made us holy. Holy, in this context, refers to us being set apart. We are God's special possession. He delights in us. We are objects of his love. In fact, Paul says we are dearly loved. Let that sink in. God love you dearly.

We are told to approach forgiveness in the right "garments." Like the Joseph, in the Old Testament, we are given a "coat of many colors.' His was a robe that expressed his Father's delight in him. Ours is a character that reflects our Father's character. We are to clothe ourselves in compassion, kindness, gentleness, humility, and patience. In short, we are to treat others as God has treated us.

In Colossians 3:13, we are told to bear with and forgive those who hurt us. We are called to endure the grating personalities of others, and meet them with grace. We are to forgive "whatever grievances" we might have, and we are to forgive as the Lord forgave us. It is a complete, reconciling forgiveness.

The thread that holds it all together is love. Colossians 3:14, tells us to cover over all our other qualities with love. It is the bond for perfect peace. The walk of love is a different approach, but it is the only one that will lead to lasting peace.

How has forgiveness transformed your life? If it hasn't already, are you willing to let it transform you life now?