Assume the Best

Whenever you have a group of people working together there is going to be some tension. Tension isn't always a bad thing. If handled properly, tension can bring about growth. However, if not handled properly tension can cause needless pain.

James, the brother of Jesus and a pastor in the early church, warned, "My dearly loved brothers, understand this: Everyone must be quick to hear, slow to speak, and slow to anger, for man's anger does not accomplish God's righteousness" (James 1:19-20, HCSB).

The apostle Paul has some words of warning as well. He states, "[Love] does not act improperly, is not selfish, is not provoked, and does not keep a record of wrongs" (1 Cor. 13:5). He also states, "For I fear that perhaps when I come I will not find you to be what I want; there may be quarreling, jealousy, outbursts of anger, selfish ambitions, slander, gossip, arrogance, and disorder" (2 Cor. 12:20). Again, Paul states, "All bitterness, anger and wrath, shouting and slander must be removed from you, along with all malice" (Eph. 4:31).

The temptation in life is to assume the worse in others. We question their motives, we read into their words, and we suspect their character. However, we want them to trust our motives, correctly interpret our words, and recognize our characters. Differences of opinions or approaches often lead to conflict because we misunderstand one another.

Although the solution is simple, it isn't always easy. Paul encourages, "And be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving one another, just as God also forgave you in Christ" (Eph. 4:32). Jesus said, "Therefore, whatever you want others to do for you, do also the same for them--this is the Law and Prophets" (Matt. 7:12).

The best course of action when working with others is to assume the best.  Even though Jesus knew Judas's heart, he didn't treat him differently. Jesus knew Judas was a thief, yet Jesus still allowed him to be the treasurer.  He treated Judas with loving kindness. He even washed Judas's feet. It is impossible for us to know what is in other peoples hearts, so we need to trust them. Even if they do things differently than we would, or say things in a way that rub us the wrong way. We need to give them the benefit of the doubt.

In the long run, it isn't about us. It is about the glory of God. As believers, we all strive in our own way to glorify God. Sometimes, we succeed. Sometimes, we fail. At all times, we seek grace. Therefore, at all times we must give grace. Unless they prove otherwise, we must always assume that those around us are striving to glorify God, as well.  If we approach the task of working with others for the glory of God in humility and love,  everything else can be worked out.